Getting To The Bottom Of It....

Well, yesterday was an interesting day, to say the least. Sally and I had a chance to talk last night and it was good. Things are always better when we talk. I know that communication works... there's plenty of evidence for that.

So we were IM-ing last night and she told me to call her (she was still out on errands) -- so I did! We started talking. I gotta tell you, with the my ride on The Emotional Roller Coaster, I was having a hard time saying anything that was remotely coherent at the start. It's like all the neurons in my brain were firing in random sequences. 

I had to force myself to slow down and focus on being with her... which was the whole point of the call, eh?

One of the things that she talked about was how it was for her. Sometimes it gets to the point where it just feels like it's too much -- that she's stretched to her limit and anything else will cause something to break. Not her words exactly, my rough and loose translation of it. I was very glad that she told me that, because I didn't know for sure.

So part of my theory about why she pulled back had some basis in fact. The thing that I told her is that this is something that we need to work on together. Being in communication can help resolve a lot of things. Just leaving doesn't make it better, even if it seems like it will. Our trip for next week is back on and we're going to use it as an opportunity to talk about this and whatever else is needed. Thank goodness.

Of course, there's a new game now, given that I've thrown down the gauntlet. She isn't saying yes or no. The thing that I asked her to do is to explore what it might mean with me. She told me that she doesn't allow herself to think of such things. Ever. She was actually adamant about that. As if she's ever indecisive about anything. LOL

Of course, exploring this would necessitate thinking of such things and would represent and important first step. So that's the next thing to keep in the sights. Now, I know that (at least where I am concerned) she is way beyond what she considers her comfort zone to be. As such, I am not going to press this issue. In fact, I'll back off of it a bit. Yet, I think this was an important step and that it's on the table for talking about.

This is not to say that we won't go our separate ways at some point in time, but it will be when we are both ready and agreed that it is the next evolution of our relationship -- or at least, that's my intention in the matter. Circumstances may be what does it or it may be a result of being in communication. Who knows?

What I do know is that each passing day leads us forward and has us take new ground with each other. I am so very pleased about that.

In the meantime, I'll be working on watching out for any unrealistic expectations and opening up lots of opportunities to communicate.

Those are things that you do gladly for those that you love, isn't it? :-)