The Boiled Frog Effect

There's an old story about how to boil a frog and it goes something like this:

You can't just "boil a frog"

If you throw them into boiling water, they'll likely manage to jump out.

The temperature difference is a true shock to their system.

How do you do it?

Put them in the water at a normal temperature.

Gradually heat the water, letting the frog get used to the change over time.

At some point, the water is hot enough to boil and the frog is screwed.

You've just boiled a frog.

You're likely wondering, "how exactly does this relate to your life, John?!"
That would be a good question to ask.

Let me attempt to explain...

When do you call it over?!

This question has been weighing heavily on my mind for some time.
I started writing this in January of this year and never finished.
Tonight, it feels like the right time to publish what I'd completed thus far.

If you dare, have a look at the strange depths of my thinking...

Which is it, really?! O.o

When you say "I love you," I want you to know that I hear the words you're saying.
Despite this, there is a thought that stands out in my mind...

Is it because you really do love me and want me to know it?
          OR
Are you trying to convince yourself that you do?

Inquiring minds want to know...

Trading Places...

As I've thought about how things have changed between Sally and I over the past years, I came to a remarkable realization -- it's all been merely "trading places"

What do I mean? Well...

"I love you..."

For humans, especially in relationships, this is probably one of the most meaningful (and potentially problematic) statements of all time.

Why? Let's have a look...

The "Gaps"

So, the way I can see it now, the blog here is addressing two distinct "Gaps" to be mindful of:

1. The transition from Sandy to Sally.
2. The transition from Sally to whatever the fuck is next.

Let's have a look, shall we? :-)

Third Date?! O.o

After my last message about Susan, I was pretty sure that there was not going to be another date with her -- and that made me sad. I really like her. She's smart, funny and sexy. It's also nice that she's actively acknowledged that she's into me.

Well, out of the blue, she contacted me about going out again. What do you think I said? Yes, of course. Here's what happened!

Isn't It Ironic...

The people that you're closest to.

They can be quite strange, can't they?

Here's one way...

Second Date: "New John" emerges!

So, not long after my first date with Susan, I set up to do a second one.
Well, it was certainly interesting.

Why? Well, let's dig in a little and see...

First Date!

I had a first date last night with a wonderful lady that I shall name Susan the Social Worker.
How did this come to be, you ask?! Simple.
I set up an account on OKCupid this week and started actively cultivating new opportunities!

Let's have a look at how I got here, shall we?

And there it is...

Well, I cannot say that it's entirely unexpected.
On New Years Eve Sally and I ended up having another conversation about the previous evening.
Great timing, eh?! O.o
It was as painful as it was illuminating.

Here's how...