On "Love At First Sight"

For me, this is an interesting post, because the subtitle to the post should be "Unicorns do exist!" or something similarly kitschy.

I know this is true, because it happened to me!

I wasn't looking for it to happen and I didn't plan to fall in love with anyone.

So much for what I think and plan for, huh?

I am not going to bore you with all of the details regarding how Sally and I came together, but I did want to describe this whole "love at first sight" experience a little bit.

It all started with a simple e-mail response to an online dating profile. We communicated via IM initially for a few days and exchanged e-mail before we ever physically spoke to each other. A little over a week after that first contact was our "first date" -- lunch at a restaurant close to where Sally worked.

Up until that point, I would have said that "love at first sight" was a misnomer, mythical or unavailable. That's really the way that I felt. That was the day that everything changed.

The first moment that I laid eyes on her I absolutely knew that she was the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

I know, I know -- that's absolutely crazy talk!!
I don't know how and I don't know why, but that's exactly what happened.

The more cynical among my readers might say things like:

• You were just horny;
• You were just lonely;
• You were just full of lust;
• or something else like that.

I wouldn't (necessarily) disagree with any of those things, yet that doesn't explain it. In fact, to this day, I still cannot explain it.

I have thought about it a lot over time. One thing I am sure of is that, that the more I think about it, the less I am sure about what the source of this phenomenon is. It's truly puzzling.

Today, I accept it for what it is. I am not anxious to or even trying to answer the question why. That question is a distraction. It doesn't move anything forward.

The plain fact of the matter is that I am going to love her with all my heart until the day I die and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I may be with other women, but it'll never be the same as it is with Sally.

Not having her in my life would leave a hole that cannot be filled by another. I have given myself to her in a way that I cannot take back, nor would I, if I could.

All I can do is live with whatever consequences may come of our not being together.

I hope that it doesn't come to bite me in the ass! LOL