When It All Gets Too Real

Now, don't worry. This isn't about me. This is about Sandy. And yesterday, everything got a bit too real for her. Specifically, she found out that I have been dating. For me to describe this is awkward doesn't even do it justice.

Why? Let's have a look...

To say that she was unhappy about it would be the understatement of 2011. As a matter fact, she was very upset about it. It actually provoked a fairly significant reaction from her. This is really unfortunate, because there is no basis in fact why she should be upset about it.

The fact of the matter is that we are getting divorced. There is no reconciliation on the horizon. This is where things are going. This is not new news to her. We had this very conversation a short time ago and I didn't even hesitate in my response to her.

To think that she would be shocked that I have started dating, is a little bit beyond me. I have held that what I do is my business and what she does is her business. If and when she does start dating, I really don't want to know about it. the way that I see it, she's welcome to do whatever she wants with whoever she wants whenever she wants to.

I think that part of the issue here is that she has still been holding out some degree of hope that there is reconciliation in the works. I think now this has now been effectively nullified.

Still, there was a piece I was unhappy about and that was when she wrote in a text message:

"Don't expect me to be nice anymore. We are not complete with everything and you're already complicating without any communication. I'm really done john."

She was clearly upset and for that I am sorry. I never had intended to cause her any pain or suffering. Still, if it didn't come out now, it would come out later. Despite that fact, I am not doing anything that is inconsistent with any legal agreements or obligations on my part.

In fact, I  believe that I have been exceedingly generous in my support of her. I am going above and beyond the call of duty to bring her her possessions, relocate the pets and ensure that she gets the money that I have promised her on time. When you get right down to it, I had actually given her more than I have promised to do.

I know what is expected of me and am ready to do what is required.

We will see how all this plays out.